Plus Size Body Confidence

April 16th, 2014

A glance at any magazine, TV or film tells us that when it comes to the accepted form of feminine beauty, it comes in a size 10 with long legs, pert breasts, flawless skin and shiny hair.

Sound familiar? Me neither.

Whilst we less than perfect women, struggling with our weight, spotty complexions and greasy hair try hard to measure up to the vision of loveliness peddled by the mass media, we lose sight of the fact that we can be just as happy and confident in our own skins, if only we’d allow ourselves to be.

Inspirational curves

For a little inspiration on the joys of body confidence let’s look to the fine example of Amani Terrell, a twenty six year old Californian who has been strutting her 260lb of gorgeousness down LA’s famous Hollywood Boulevard. Stripping down to a bikini in a place as neurotic and self-obsessed as Los Angeles takes a lot of courage, but that is exactly what Terrell did, with the sole purpose of highlighting the fact that no matter what size, feeling good about yourself is important. Being the all new poster girl for US women with ample curves, she makes a strong case for being proud and happy in a plus sized body shape.  

As Amani Terrell shows us, feeling good about ourselves is all tied up with body confidence. When self-esteem is low, it shows on the outside. And if we happen to belong in the plus size category, staying positive about our body can sometimes be a bit of a struggle. It’s all very well saying‘I am beautiful’ in the mirror each morning – but what if feeling it is difficult?



Body confidence tips

Maximize your plus sized potential and chase away self doubt forever by observing some of these tips:

Remember, our size does not define us. Who we are, is what’s inside – our personalities, with all their nuances, subtleties and fineries – we are amazing beings and our exterior dimensions have no bearing on who we really are.

Only mix with people who are supportive, those who make nasty comments to erode confidence are not worth bothering with. Remember that anyone who makes judgments about people for purely superficial reasons has more to worry about than you.

Sometimes feeling sexy is difficult when self-esteem is low. By making ourselves feel beautiful and sexy in the bedroom we can work on our confidence. Get a helping hand to boost sexiness levels with plus sized lingerie, whether it’s sheer black negligees or plus sized lingerie babydolls, the temperature in the bedroom will be certain to soar. Ask any man what trait they find attractive in a woman, and one of the most popular answers will be ‘confidence.’


Being a fashionista is not against the law for plus sized women. Revel in all the fashions and get to learn which colors and styles have a positive effect on mood. Learn to accept compliments and never talk about yourself in a negative way.

Finally, good posture can have an amazing effect on how a person projects him or herself. Shoulders back, head high and a big smile go a long way in the fight against poor body confidence.

Feel Good Clothing

April 15th, 2014

                                      Fashion Crash 130 by evocateur, on Flickr


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We all have favourite items of clothing; things that we keep year in, year out, regardless of whether they’re still in fashion or whether we even ever wear them anymore.

The flip side can be true as well, though. Sometimes, you might open the wardrobe and see a suit that you wore for an interview, when things went badly and you didn’t get the job, or a dress you wore on a date disaster. It’s not unusual for people who have gone through a break-up or separation to tear or cut up clothes that remind them of happier times; and doing this can bring about a sense of closure, even though it may seem wasteful.

The clothes you choose to wear can have a real effect on your mood. If you wake up feeling a little down and defeated; then choosing an outfit that you know looks good on you can really cheer you up. In the same way, if you know you need to make a good impression when meeting new people, you’ll put more effort into what you wear than you might on another day.

There’s also a link with the weather and being able to leave one season’s clothing behind you and embracing the next. There’s something great about the start of summer, for example, and getting all your summer clothes out and deciding what to keep and what you need to buy more of. Sometimes, you might see a photo of celebs like The Saturdays wearing certain clothing, and it’ll remind you of something similar you have in your wardrobe that you might have forgotten about.

Take steps to make your wardrobe make you feel good

  • You don’t want your wardrobe to bring you down – keep the items that give you a positive vibe and bin those that do the opposite.

  • Think about your favourite tops or trousers – what is it about them that make you feel good? Bear those points in mind when you are shopping for new items.

  • If a piece of clothing stirs up bad memories, and you’re never going to wear it again, then get it out of your wardrobe. It’s only cluttering up space – both physical and mental.

  • On the other hand, if you have clothes that bring you good memories just from looking at them or feeling their texture, but you don’t actually want to wear them anymore, there’s no harm in keeping them. Clothes can trigger memories in the same way that photos can, and if you’ve got the space, why not keep them?

  • Don’t be afraid to try something new. You may be in a wardrobe rut, where you’ve developed almost a uniform for yourself. Clues to this happening would be if you bring a new item home and discover you have something really similar already. Make the effort to branch out in what buy; take inspiration from friends who you always notice because of what they’re wearing. You don’t necessarily want to copy them, but you can follow their lead with some fresh ideas.

Making our own Easter Eggs…a bit of a disaster

April 14th, 2014

Some women deserve the term ‘Domestic Goddess.’ They swan around the kitchen in best Nigella mode, making the most mouthwatering creations from scratch, baking their own bread and cakes, seemingly able to rustle up a three course meal from a block of cheese and a bag of potatoes. Sad to say, I am not one of those women.

In fact, I couldn’t be further removed from the term ‘Domestic Goddess’, ‘Domestic embarrassment would be more apt. You see, I really hate cooking, I hate it with a passion. So whilst some lovely ladies litter their blogs with culinary delights, I clog up my Facebook feed with ‘OMG!’ moments from the kitchen. However, my five year old loves to bake, cook and generally mess about in the kitchen so I do sometimes have a go …with varied results.


When I was approached by the lovely people at Waitrose to see if I would be interested in making my own Easter Eggs with Joe, my first response was to laugh out loud. Me. making my own Easter Eggs – were they joking? But, after having a think about it, I decided it would be a lovely activity for the first day of half term, and, as it only really involved melting chocolate – what could possibly go wrong? These were to prove famous last words.


We were sent a truly amazing box of ingredients, both to make, and decorate the eggs. Everything from chocolate sprinkles (also perfect for ice cream), honeycomb and butterscotch pieces, mini marshmallows, pre-made icing, popping candy, the sweet treats were literally endless and totally mouthwatering. There was also a mixture of chocolate – Lindt dark chocolate, and dairy milk chocolate in the form of large buttons. Everything we needed to create the perfect Easter Eggs.



We started quite well. We melted the chocolate and got the molds ready. We found old, clean paintbrushes as I don’t possess a pastry brush (what exactly is a pastry brush?) and got down to putting a thin layer of the melted chocolate in the mold. So far, so good (save except for a few stray bristles from the paintbrushes – but what’s a bristle or two between friends?) We allowed the first layer to harden, and then added a second layer. Again we allowed this to go hard. We were now all set to decorate…or so we thought.



The problem came when we tried to get the eggs out of the molds. They wouldn’t come out. Joe suggested banging them on the table – I did, and that didn’t work either. I then tried to loosen them by squeezing the edge of the mold, and this, eventually, started to release the egg – in shell-like pieces unfortunately.

We eventually ended up with this.



The amazing thing is that Joe was as happy as could be and set about adding all the honeycomb pieces, sprinkles and smarties to the mix, he stirred, tasted and proclaimed that he wanted to save some for his nan. And I guess that is the crux of this task, the sheer enjoyment factor. You can buy an Easter Egg anywhere for a pound, but the giggles and fun we had was both memorable and totally priceless.


With thanks to Waitrose and Simone Stevens from Propellernet.