Tips to help Nocturnal Mums to better sleep

When you become a parent, it suddenly becomes hard to remember what a good night’s sleep, a full eight hours, actually felt like. Feeding throughout the night, night’s full of tears, of teething, of croup, all these things mean that real sleep can feel like a thing of the past. And this doesn’t really change as they begin to get a little older and pass the baby/toddler stage. Joe is now 6, visits the toilet at least twice each night, sometimes has night terrors or just sleep walks. I find that with the exception of an odd, much needed lie-in, I never get more than 5 hours sleep per night. Despite all this, some nights I still find it hard to get to sleep. So how can you avoid being a nocturnal mommy and ensure you get the most from the sleep you get?

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Here are a few tips…

1. Make that bedroom an oasis of calm – no television, no mobile phones, definitely no social media – you really do not need to be checking Facebook and Twitter before you go to sleep. It’s a bedroom, not another extension of your office – remember that.

Not in the bedroom

Not in the bedroom!

2. Comfortable pillows are a must for me. Not too many to give me a neck ache when I wake up, but soft and fluffy enough to lull me to sleep.

3. A good mattress for both you and baby. Naturalmat,  sum this up perfectly here “Every moment spent in bed is precious and a good mattress can make all the difference to having a good nights sleep.” A good duvet of the correct tog is also important, you need to choose one that suits the season, too thick and you will be uncomfortable and too hot to sleep, too thin and you will just feel cold all night. Try to choose an anti-allergy duvet which protect your bedding against dust mites and bacteria.

The Splendid Spring mattress from Naturalmat

4. Try to unwind before bed. Have a bath with Lavender bath oils, drink a glass of warm milk, turn off that social media and maybe unwind with a chapter from a soothing, romantic book. Whatever it is that relaxes you – do it.

Lavender is a great aid to sleep - in oils, in pillows, as a bath oil - give it a try.

Lavender is a great aid to sleep – in oils, in pillows, as a bath oil – give it a try.

5. Don’t go to bed hungry. If you tummy is rumbling, you won’t get to sleep, it’s as simple as that. Have a light snack, something like toast, let it settle, and then go to bed. Avoid cheese through – it’s supposed to give you nightmares (although I’m guessing that’s an old wives tale…)

If all else fails, get up, watch a bit of TV, relax and then try again. There is no point in lying there listening to the other half snoring his way across the night, you will just become more frustrated and more tired.

What are your tips for a good nights sleep? What do you do if you are awake when you should be asleep?

Saving for Joe’s future

I sometimes find it hard to remember the days ‘BJ’, that is, before Joe. But one thing I do remember clearly is just how much disposable income we had, money to spend on frivolities like clothes and make-up, eating out, excessive amounts of shopping that we didn’t need, and holidays. These days it seems that every penny is accounted for and earmarked and most of it seems to be earmarked for Joe.

Earmarked for Joe? Yes, it has to be said, it costs a fortune being a mom to a football mad boy. Each month we spend around £100 on his football training and subs. He has a season ticket at West Bromwich Albion which is another £50 a year. His feet won’t stop growing, so it seems new boots are needed every couple of months, and they have to be Puma or Nike, and then there are the new football strips, wanted (new design of course) and needed (why won’t his legs stop growing – is my boy part giraffe?). Add into this the Fifa points that I seem to be buying every week, the school trips and residentials, and the fact I need to remortgage in order to do the food shop and it is clear, being a mom of a boy is very expensive, and it will only get more expensive, which is why I’m already thinking towards the future.

The dreaded Fifa

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Football with his team

We’re not wealthy by any means, so Joe can’t exactly have a trust fund, but there are ways to make sensible savings towards the future, even if it is only a small sum each month. One way where you can not only save money, but can also allow it to grow is by opening a Junior Isa Account. There are two kinds of Junior Isa’s, a Junior cash Isa and a Junior Stocks and Shares Isa. The main difference between a junior Isa and an adult Isa is that the junior Isa does belong to your child, money cannot be removed until your child reaches the age of 18, and this is what makes them perfect as a way of saving towards their first car or University costs.

The regular Junior Isa account earns interest like a savings account, and you can deposit up to £4,260 per year into the ISA, which could create a nice little nest egg by the time your child is 18. If you opt for the Junior Stocks and shares Isa, then your money is invested in financial markets with the aim of earning returns for investors that are greater than those you would get in a Junior Cash ISA. There is obviously some level of risk involved, but your returns could be much greater too, so it is definitely something to weigh up.

With university fees being so expensive, most establishments now charging the maximum amount of £9,000+, it would be good to have some money set aside to help with this, or with a deposit for a first home or a car if your child decides against university.

Do you have any savings put by for your child’s future? What are you saving for?

Take Time Out For A Little Self Care This Autumn

No matter how busy and hectic your life may be, you need to make sure that you take care of your wellbeing in order for you to be healthy and happy. Along with the fulfilling any responsibilities of work, family and motherhood, you should cater to your own needs such as adequate rest, nourishing food and regular exercise, and could also look into how therapy can improve your life if you are feeling that everything is on top of you.

Learn to Love Yourself

If you want to improve the quality of your life, then actually learning to love yourself is a big step forward. So many of us spend so much time beating ourselves up about every last thing, and then wonder why things don’t go our way. Look at all the things you do well, the people who love you and often rely on you, and what you have achieved in life so far, no matter how small or big those things seem. Orionsmethod .com offers a range of self coaching methods that can help you to step back and evaluate all those important life choices and decisions.

Take a Break

Finding some time to focus on you is vital for all mothers because their lives usually involve meeting other people’s needs throughout the day. This can be quite exhausting and if you are overwhelmed you will not be able to handle your obligations effectively. If your general wellbeing does not receive the care it deserves, you will end up being stressed and worn out.

Invest in some time to care for your needs, which will be beneficial for your health in the long run. Finding enough time for yourself requires planning when you have a busy life. Set aside time for the spa, lunch dates with friends and regular appointments with your doctor.

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Nutritious Diet

All mothers require a healthy diet that is well-balanced. It is important to plan healthy and simple meals if you have a hectic schedule to ensure that you get the nutrition that you need. Include all the recommended food groups in your meal choices. Your nutritional intake has a significant impact on your general health, immune system, weight and energy levels.

Exercise

Develop exercise routines that work well for your lifestyle. Exercise helps you to stay active. You do not have to run for miles or go the gym everyday to stay fit. Dancing, swimming and biking are some of the fun activities that you can get involved in to keep you physically active.

 

 

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