Dealing with the ‘D’ Word – The Key Preparations

If you look at divorce statistics in the UK over the course of the last 45 years, there are two clear trends that stand out. Firstly, the number of couples tying the knot has decline considerably during this time, as social attitudes have shifted and caused marriage to become a slightly outdated institution.

Despite this, the number of divorces has remained largely unchanged, with the rate of separation increasing incrementally as a result. In fact, the divorce rate was a relatively paltry 18.3% in 1971, while the corresponding number in 2014 was around 44%.

If you find yourself dealing with the prospect of divorce, you’ll be sure to experience some challenging times. So, here are some key considerations that will help you to prepare for this.

  1. Tackle the Breakdown of your Relationship Head-on

While divorce is never easy, it is a process that can become dysfunctional when feelings of animosity and entrenched bitterness are allowed to fester.

This can be avoided by tackling your issues head-on, whether this involves entering into an ongoing process of marriage counselling or simply accepting the breakdown of your relationship and making proactive plans for the future.

Either way, the key is to communicate openly and discuss your relationship while it remains on amicable terms. This also enables you to prepare your family from the emotional fall-out associated with divorce, which is particularly important when you have children.

 

  • Consider the Terms of any Future Settlement

 

As part of this process, you should also consider the terms of any future financial settlement. This is key to any amicable divorce, so it’s important to start the process of negotiation before the relationship breaks down beyond repair.

This does not necessarily mean immediately entering into complex and emotionally fraught discussions, of course, as this may require some form of objective mediation (a little more on this later).

It does mean at least considering what you want to achieve from your divorce settlement, however, and establishing open lines of communication for the future.

 

  • Partner with an Independent Mediator and Conflict Resolution Specialist

 

When it comes to finalising your divorce and establishing a plan that fairly distributes your combined estate, we’d definitely recommend that you seek outside help. After all, even if you have managed to maintain an amicable relationship with your estranged partner, this can quickly become strained if you try to establish precise terms without the help of an independent mediator.

Not only does this offer you access to legal expertise and advice on complex issues, but it also prevents discussions from becoming overly emotional.

As a result of this, you’ll be able to retain your focus at all times, without becoming overwhelmed or overly distracted when the negotiations become challenging.