Is Egg Donation Right for You? An Explanation and Guide to Choosing a Donor

Couples struggling with infertility often find themselves in a perpetual cycle of grief and loss. Every negative pregnancy test and monthly period is a reminder of the child they do not have and a dream that is going unfulfilled.

For a woman, having low-quality eggs or a small egg reserve can feel like the greatest disappointment of all.

Donor egg IVF is an alternative fertility treatment that often offers the ideal solution to this situation. Serving as a guide to egg donation, allow this text to help better explain the ways that this revolutionary process can help you create the family of your dreams.

Deciding Whether Donor Eggs are the Right Choice

As a woman, accepting that you may never carry your own child is not easily achieved.

Laura Bush once said – “For those who deeply want children and are denied them, those missing babies hover like silent, ephemeral shadows over their lives. Who can describe the feel of a tiny hand that is never held?”

Providing yourself with the time and energy needed to overcome this loss is the first step in a successful donor egg process. Whether it’s a day, a week, or a month, you will only feel confident about your decision to use an egg donor if you’ve come to terms with your situation.

Compared to alternatives like adoption, egg donation provides a unique opportunity for women who are unable to conceive through traditional methods. While your baby may not have the genetic connection you’d always hoped for, you will still have the chance to carry and nourish their little bodies throughout gestation. The bonds formed between mother and child throughout pregnancy are undeniable and everlasting.

Pregnant woman carrying her child’s ultrasound picture.

Finding an Egg Donor

Deciding to choose a frozen donor egg, as opposed to a fresh cycle, provides a much larger selection of possible donors.

Various online databases offer hopeful parents a wide range of donors to search through. During your quest to find that perfect person for you and your family, you can find confidence in the fact that each potential donor has undergone an extensive pre-donation screening process.

Not only do clinics test for various sexually transmitted diseases, donor egg bank storage facilities also give potential donors background checks, psychological evaluations, and full medical history screenings. Online profiles will even contain a potential donor’s education and career experience.

Frozen donor eggs offer options in terms of choosing an egg. Whether a couple is interested in a child with similar physical characteristics or personality traits – they will have a large pool to choose from.

Understanding the Donor Egg IVF Process

After you’ve decided to grow your family with donated eggs and have found the perfect donor, the next step is to prepare the woman’s body for implantation.

Most IVF cycles will begin with a few weeks of birth control pills to regulate your menstrual cycle. During this time, you will also undergo some initial screening tests, such as blood work and ultrasounds that provide your fertility specialist with information on your current reproductive condition.

Once you’ve completed these tests and cycled through your birth control pills, you will begin taking various medications and hormones to support your body during the process. Drugs like estrogen and progesterone work to thicken a woman’s endometrial lining and make it a more accepting environment for an embryo.

When your body has been successfully prepared and is almost ready for the embryo transfer, the donor egg storage facility will ship your chosen eggs to the fertility clinic for thawing and fertilization. An advanced flash-freezing process called vitrification now helps to ensure that eggs will survive the thawing stage and removes the risk ice crystal formation during freezing and storage.

After fertilization, your specialist and their team will watch the embryo develop until it’s ready for transfer into the woman’s uterus.

Two weeks after the embryo transfer has been completed, you will return to the clinic for a blood pregnancy test to confirm that the cycle was successful.

Growing Your Family with Donor Egg IVF

When infertility is the reality for you and your spouse, the battle can seem impossible to overcome. Pregnancy announcements on Facebook and baby showers for friends become the salt in your never-healing wound and the baby section in stores is your enemy.

When all feels lost, however, draw confidence from the fact that there are other options. Becoming a parent with donor eggs not only offers the gift of a child but also the pregnancy experience a woman may be dreaming of.

Taking the first step and looking into egg donors could be a simple task that will change your life forever.

Why should you go to a baby show?

You’ve just had the happy news that you will soon be hearing the pattering of tiny feet. You’re over the moon of course, but then you face the realisation that there is so much to prepare before you get to meet your little one. Everything from a cot and a pushchair, to a little wardrobe of baby clothes, to all the other things in between, it all needs to be relatively sorted before you baby comes along. Which is why a visit or two to some baby shows are such a good idea.

Baby Shows are Fun

You can have a great day out at a Baby Show. In general, they are enormous events so you can make a day of it – have a bite to eat, watch the demonstrations and browse the stalls, maybe ticking a few items off your ‘to buy’ list as you go.

Grab a bargain

There are many stores at baby shows that have a good range of products. Pushchairs, cots and bulk buys of baby toiletries can all be purchased at prices that are far cheaper than the normal recommended retail price. In addition, you may get to try/view products that are new to you, and there may also be samples/goody bags that also have free products in them.

Meet the Experts

Most Baby shows have experts who can answer your questions and queries. These can be related to feeding or sleeping, or can also be of a more technical nature – maybe you’ve not decided what sort of travel system you want, or have questions about choosing your baby monitor. Baby Shows are a great way to get your questions answered.

Find everything you need in one place

If you have a hatred of shopping, but don’t really enjoy getting things online either, then a Baby Show could be a great way to find everything you need in one place. You can place orders for the ‘big things’ like cots, highchairs and prams, which can then be delivered to your door, but you have also had the chance to look and test drive these things first – something you can’t do if you just shop online.

Did you go to a baby show when you were expecting?

 

Tips on How to Get Back into Shape After Birth

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During pregnancy, you can crave all kinds of foods, sometimes in odd combinations. There are other changes too, all because of a significant surge in hormones.

Women can feel pressured to snap back into shape as soon after birth as possible. We see pictures of post-partum celebrities who within days of giving birth seem to have lost every ounce of ‘baby weight’ they gained.

Articles on celebrity diets and tips on post-pregnancy weight loss litter the pages of women’s magazines.

But, with these tips from HARTMANN Direct you can assign the magazine to the recycling paper bin because ‘secrets’ are revealed…

Start when you are pregnant

It is perfectly natural to gain weight during pregnancy. And we all do it differently. Some women seem to blossom and balloon, whilst other pregnant ladies maintain their lithe shape and enjoy a pert bump.

Some of us gain weight right at the start, others gain it in the final trimester… we could go on but the point is this, just as you probably wouldn’t eat a family sized chocolate cake for breakfast when you are not pregnant, throwing caution to the wind and eating what you want when pregnant is not a wise choice.

Maintain the healthy lifestyle you followed pre-pregnancy but enjoy the odd treat or two.

A helping hand from nature

Once the baby is born, you can drop between 11 and 13lbs of weight instantly. Breastfeeding also helps with the calorie control as feeding your baby uses up over 800 calories a day.

Rest and recuperation is essential but once you have the all clear from the midwife, get back to walking or your gym routine, or whatever exercise you did pre-pregnancy – and start gently.

Rest and sleep

Babies don’t have a set sleep pattern, although others may boast that their little one is sleeping through the night. The point is, their sleep cycle changes and as mum, when baby sleeps, you need to be resting or sleeping too.

Odd sleep patterns cause chaos with the metabolism, making shifting baby weight a little tough. Rest and sleep when you can.

Nature’s weight loss remedies

Nature, as you would expect, has many helping hands when it comes to helping your body recuperate post-birth. Many of these remedies, however, are not suitable during pregnancy but once baby is here, why not try;

  • A dash of lime or lemon juice in water, sweetened with honey a couple of times a day can help to lose weight, especially if you have water retention
  • Green tea has excellent weight loss properties
  • Munch of negative calorie snacks such as celery, tomatoes and cucumbers

If you are breastfeeding, remember what you eat passes on to baby so don’t go overboard otherwise you will be battling colic!

Join other mums

Having a baby is an exciting, thrilling time but when reality sets in, you need the support and encouragement, as well as company of other mums. Getting out and about, being part of a group is excellent for focusing on other things other than your weight.

Calorie counting is the answer

You can sup as much green tea as you like but, if your calorie intake is way ahead of your calorie expenditure, shifting the extra lbs you have gained is not going to happen.

Calorie counting is boring, no doubt about it but, with all kinds of calorie counting and fitness apps available, it can be slightly more fun and easier to manage.

Changing attitude to food

You’ve enjoyed pregnancy and your little bundle of joy is here – and you need to get back into a healthy eating routine – and this not only means the food and drink you consume, but when you consume it.

During pregnancy, attitude to food does change. In late pregnancy, portion sizes would have been smaller because you felt ‘full’ and cumbersome with a full-term baby. Now that you can eat normally again, portion sizes increase. It is amazing how many not-so-good habits stay with us.

Eat well at breakfast, get back to eating fish three times a week and opt for lean cuts of meat again. Space your meals over the day so that your calorie intake is evenly spread.

In summary

Your post-pregnancy body can feel very different, certainly for the first few weeks or even months after giving birth. You need to give it chance to heal but you also need to be mindful of making changes that will help you get back into shape both physically and mentally so that you can look forward to the challenges of parenthood.

 

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