Romantic Date Ideas for Couples Adventuring Midlife Crisis Together

A midlife crisis can strike anyone. This is the kind of depression that can leave you questioning your life and purpose for being, and you may end up with drastic changes in your situation. You may end up changing your career entirely, moving to another state (or even another country), or buying a Porsche. It’s jarring enough if you’re single, but if you’re in a serious relationship, then a midlife crisis can upend both your lives. Sometimes this feeling can even result in extramarital affairs.

As a couple dealing with a midlife crisis together, it’s especially imperative for the two of you to keep on having regular dates. This reaffirms your special bond and it helps you to support each other. Here are some types of romantic dates that you may want to try out:

Do the Opposite of What You Normally Do

If the two of you are both impulsive, try to go on a “responsible” date by volunteering your time at a charity event or a soup kitchen. But if you two are more the responsible type, try something that’s still legal but somewhat crazy. The point is to do something different, so that you’re not stuck doing the same things you’ve been doing for seemingly forever.

Be Like a Tourist

If you live in a city, then some people may visit your city for their holiday. What would a tourist do? Go online and do some research and then go to the same places a tourist might visit. These may be museums, botanical gardens, and zoos. These may also be places that you may have felt are too “touristy”, but you can always give it a try and see your city (and your life) from a fresh perspective.

Play a Game from Your Childhood

One way to forget that you’re both older now is to bring yourselves back to when you were children. So try games that you both enjoyed when you were younger. This can be miniature golf, badminton, or even bowling. Bowling is especially popular among many couples today, as these bowling alleys can have special theme nights.

Visit an Amusement Park or Arcade

Now this can really help you feel like kids again. You can go on rides together, and then take your turn at the whack-a-mole. Play the various games and laugh at your lack of skills. The point is to have light-hearted fun together and pretend you’re teenagers again. Maybe you can even try to cotton candy!

Go Camping

When was the last time you ever slept in a tent? If you’re mostly the urban type, then it could be a while since you last tried this.

Consult a veteran camper you know personally, and borrow (or buy) some supplies like a tent and sleeping bags. You can start by staying overnight in your backyard, but then you may progress into the woods. Have a campfire, roast marshmallows and hotdogs, and maybe tell a few ghost stories over a bottle of wine. Don’t forget to snuggle, as that’s always essential for romantic dates of this type!

Staying Safe On Your First Date

Whatever situation you find yourself in, one thing is always important, and that is to keep yourself safe. This is nowhere more true than when you go on your first date with a new person. You may have met the person of your dreams, but that doesn’t mean you can totally let your guard down and not keep to your boundaries.

Whether you have met your date through college, work, or through free dating sites a great first date is also a safe one where you are able to enjoy yourself and be yourself, but know that there is no danger of being in a situation that could leave you feeling unsafe.

Here are some tips for keeping yourself safe on your first date.

  1. Make your own way to the date. Although it might be more convenient for your date to pick you up on route, the reality is that this is the first date so you don’t really know the person that well, particularly if you have met through online dating. If you accept the offer of a lift, you are automatically showing the person where you live, which may not be ideal if the date turns out less than successful, or you decide you don’t want to pursue the relationship further. The best scenario would be to travel by taxi, maybe booking a return with the driver so you have getting back home sorted too. If you want to see how the date progresses before booking your taxi, you can at least keep the number in your phone to contact them later.
  2. Choose a venue that is at a mid point for both of you. You really don’t want to be traveling miles to go on your date, particularly if this means you could later have trouble trying to get home. A mid point venue is therefore ideal when/if you choose to go your separate ways.
  3. Choose somewhere busy for the first date. A public place like a pub or restaurant are the ideal venues for your first date – the old adage ‘safety in numbers’ certainly runs true in this situation. The atmosphere is likely to be conducive to a fun evening, but with lots of people around there is less pressure on you, particularly if you feel the evening isn’t going as well as anticipated.
  4. Don’t give too much information away right away. You need to get to know each other gradually, rather than jumping in with both feet. You can talk about what you do for a living without actually having to give away your place of work, similarly, you can talk about the area where you live without giving your actual address. The person you are dating could be Mr Perfect, but just in case you have found yourself a stalker, don’t make it too easy for them.
  5. Keep your phone charged. A dead phone is a nightmare at any time, but on a date you need to keep it charged and close. You may need it to phone a taxi, phone a friend to let them know you are heading home, or even to use if you need to make a quick escape.

If you follow these simple tips your first date should go just fine, and hopefully lead to many more.

Dealing with the ‘D’ Word – The Key Preparations

If you look at divorce statistics in the UK over the course of the last 45 years, there are two clear trends that stand out. Firstly, the number of couples tying the knot has decline considerably during this time, as social attitudes have shifted and caused marriage to become a slightly outdated institution.

Despite this, the number of divorces has remained largely unchanged, with the rate of separation increasing incrementally as a result. In fact, the divorce rate was a relatively paltry 18.3% in 1971, while the corresponding number in 2014 was around 44%.

If you find yourself dealing with the prospect of divorce, you’ll be sure to experience some challenging times. So, here are some key considerations that will help you to prepare for this.

  1. Tackle the Breakdown of your Relationship Head-on

While divorce is never easy, it is a process that can become dysfunctional when feelings of animosity and entrenched bitterness are allowed to fester.

This can be avoided by tackling your issues head-on, whether this involves entering into an ongoing process of marriage counselling or simply accepting the breakdown of your relationship and making proactive plans for the future.

Either way, the key is to communicate openly and discuss your relationship while it remains on amicable terms. This also enables you to prepare your family from the emotional fall-out associated with divorce, which is particularly important when you have children.

 

  • Consider the Terms of any Future Settlement

 

As part of this process, you should also consider the terms of any future financial settlement. This is key to any amicable divorce, so it’s important to start the process of negotiation before the relationship breaks down beyond repair.

This does not necessarily mean immediately entering into complex and emotionally fraught discussions, of course, as this may require some form of objective mediation (a little more on this later).

It does mean at least considering what you want to achieve from your divorce settlement, however, and establishing open lines of communication for the future.

 

  • Partner with an Independent Mediator and Conflict Resolution Specialist

 

When it comes to finalising your divorce and establishing a plan that fairly distributes your combined estate, we’d definitely recommend that you seek outside help. After all, even if you have managed to maintain an amicable relationship with your estranged partner, this can quickly become strained if you try to establish precise terms without the help of an independent mediator.

Not only does this offer you access to legal expertise and advice on complex issues, but it also prevents discussions from becoming overly emotional.

As a result of this, you’ll be able to retain your focus at all times, without becoming overwhelmed or overly distracted when the negotiations become challenging.