How to Work Out Whether Your Partner May be Cheating

 Many people already know how awful it can feel to suspect your partner may be cheating. However, this is something that many people simply put up with because they feel it’s better to be with someone–even unhappily–than alone.  So, they would rather bury their heads in the sand than find out the truth. This is no way to hold down a relationship, and sooner or later things will invariably come crashing down if your partner is indeed cheating. This is why you need to find out one way or another.

 You may have your suspicions that your partner has been unfaithful, but how can you find out for certain? Well, short of asking them outright and getting a truthful answer, or actually catching them in the act, it can be difficult to find out for certain. However, there are some indicators you can look out for that may give you a better idea of whether your suspicions are founded or not. In this article, we will look at some of these indicators.

 Indicators to Suggest Your Partner Is Cheating

 One of the things to look out for is a sudden increase in the number of calls your partner receives or makes. This is particularly important if they tend to walk out of the room when taking the call, or they act cagily while on the phone. You can ask your partner who was calling, but they may well lie about it. So, one solution is to perform a phone number lookup online to try and find out who was calling.

 Another thing to look at is whether your partner’s social media usage habits have changed. Some people who are cheating tend to spend a lot of time on social media using instant messenger. If this is something your partner is doing, it does not necessarily mean they are cheating. However, if they have only recently started doing it, and they tend to keep the computer or mobile device out of your line of sight while on social media, there could be a reason. In addition, you may notice other things, such as closing the laptop, switching off the device when you walk in, or even changing the password on the account if you knew the previous one.

 So, what else should you look out for? Well, one possible giveaway is a sudden change in habits when it comes to you. Maybe you have noticed your partner is no longer affectionate and doesn’t cuddle you much. Perhaps they tend to shun you when it comes to sex. If your partner has started being cold with you in terms of affection and intimacy, this could be a sign that they are getting what they need elsewhere.

 So, if you want to get a better idea of whether your partner may be cheating on you, look out for some of the above signs. 

Firing The Spark In A Relationship.

Whether you are in a long term relationship, are enjoying the first flush of love, or are currently enjoying no strings dating, there is no excuse for letting all the passion and excitement go from your life. There are lots of different ways to keep a relationship as vital and exciting as it was when you first got together, and if you are currently looking to find love, whether through a traditional dating website, or through the more physical sex sites, the truth is that passion and interest need to be kept alive in order to avoid the relationship rut.

Here are some things you can do to keep the fires burning.

  1. Lingerie and a touch of something naughty

Keeping your sex life active and interesting will certainly help to keep a relationship alive, or ignite a new one. Beautiful and sexy lingerie, fun sex toys, erotic books and fun games can all re-ignite a stagnant sex life. These days you don’t have to worrry about being embarrassed about buying these naughty adult toys. Local private shops do still exist, but you can buy these things online or at Ann Summers, which has branches in most big cities. Even Poundland has got in on the act, with a range of condoms and sex toys selling for, you’ve guessed it, just a pound.



2. Date Night

There are only a couple of thick and fast rules to apply when it comes to date night. If you are married the first is obvious – no children allowed. This is quality time for you and your partner, and if you can leave your phone and social media behind too, so much the better. For everything else it is down to personal preference:- the destination is up to you, a movie, a nice meal in a good restaurant, or just a quite drink. Do avoid your local though, you don’t want date night turning into a catch up with friends, especially if you are not at the stage of introducing your date to friends yet.

3. Make the effort to speak to each other.

It is so easy when you both come in from work and feel tired, just to slob in the armchair staring at the television. It becomes even harder to communicate when kids are involved, demanding your time, attention and their dinner. So you must make sure you talk to one another, ask about each other’s day, share a kiss and a cuddle too. It does make all the difference. In a new relationship make sure you are making time to really get to know each other, this means dates in places where you can actually talk, rather than the cinema for every date. You may be getting to know Hugh Jackman with endless viewings of ‘The Greatest Showman’ but what about your date?

4. Little gifts

Gifts don’t have to be huge and ostentatious to be appreciated, it is the idea that the thought was there, and whilst your other half was elsewhere, they were still thinking of you. My hubby very often stops on his way home from work and picks up my favourite chocolate for me. It often takes him a long time to get home from work, so the idea that he still stopped and thought of me really does mean a lot. For new dates, flowers work really well, just judge the mood and don’t be too effusive, this could scare your date off.



Staying Safe On Your First Date

Whatever situation you find yourself in, one thing is always important, and that is to keep yourself safe. This is nowhere more true than when you go on your first date with a new person. You may have met the person of your dreams, but that doesn’t mean you can totally let your guard down and not keep to your boundaries.

Whether you have met your date through college, work, or through free dating sites a great first date is also a safe one where you are able to enjoy yourself and be yourself, but know that there is no danger of being in a situation that could leave you feeling unsafe.

Here are some tips for keeping yourself safe on your first date.

  1. Make your own way to the date. Although it might be more convenient for your date to pick you up on route, the reality is that this is the first date so you don’t really know the person that well, particularly if you have met through online dating. If you accept the offer of a lift, you are automatically showing the person where you live, which may not be ideal if the date turns out less than successful, or you decide you don’t want to pursue the relationship further. The best scenario would be to travel by taxi, maybe booking a return with the driver so you have getting back home sorted too. If you want to see how the date progresses before booking your taxi, you can at least keep the number in your phone to contact them later.
  2. Choose a venue that is at a mid point for both of you. You really don’t want to be traveling miles to go on your date, particularly if this means you could later have trouble trying to get home. A mid point venue is therefore ideal when/if you choose to go your separate ways.
  3. Choose somewhere busy for the first date. A public place like a pub or restaurant are the ideal venues for your first date – the old adage ‘safety in numbers’ certainly runs true in this situation. The atmosphere is likely to be conducive to a fun evening, but with lots of people around there is less pressure on you, particularly if you feel the evening isn’t going as well as anticipated.
  4. Don’t give too much information away right away. You need to get to know each other gradually, rather than jumping in with both feet. You can talk about what you do for a living without actually having to give away your place of work, similarly, you can talk about the area where you live without giving your actual address. The person you are dating could be Mr Perfect, but just in case you have found yourself a stalker, don’t make it too easy for them.
  5. Keep your phone charged. A dead phone is a nightmare at any time, but on a date you need to keep it charged and close. You may need it to phone a taxi, phone a friend to let them know you are heading home, or even to use if you need to make a quick escape.

If you follow these simple tips your first date should go just fine, and hopefully lead to many more.